WHICH IS HARD TO WAIT FOR, HUSBAND OR BABY?

Waiting is never easy

I was just reminded of an article I read online 4 years ago while looking for godly views on the subject of waiting on God for a husband. As a 24 years old spirit filled lady I doubt I wanted to marry at that time (I always had my heart at 27) but understood the importance of having prior information from believers.

A question was asked on the forum “Which Is Harder To Wait For; A Husband Or A Child?” I had no business waiting on God for a child then but I could relate with the husband part. So I started reading the long thread of experiences of Christian ladies in or past their prime who had been praying for husbands, some had ministry responsibilities and could not understand why their dedication goes unseen, a few women held their last straw. Those who were married on other hand argued it was more difficult to wait for a child pressure is increased from both sides of the family, you also had to pray for your spouse to be strong for you when new couples have children and you still don’t.

A few years down the line and its amazing how I can relate, illustrate and share godly advice from either side because I have been there. I am a married woman now (Yes, God gave me the most imperfect man I so cherish) and expect to have children soon so the waiting continues in a way…right?

What I have found is that to wait for a husband is hard and to wait for a child is equally hard and both are on different levels. It gets harder when you are in expectation with an attitude of unbelief or fear or you do not have the word of God for yourself to guide you every day as you wait by faith for a husband or a baby. One thing I can tell any Christian lady in any of this situations is; God is ever faithful and the wait will be over at the right time. Now married I think if I had reminded myself enough of God's love and will for me to have a great husband I wouldn’t have tortured myself everyday with vain repetitive prayers. 

Importantly I read also that your future husband is always from a circle around your daily life (family of friends or colleagues, neighbors or your local church) but let the Holy Spirit lead you right.

The wait could be harder for women who have recently lost a baby due to miscarriage or chemical pregnancy; to experience the joy of conception only to have lost the baby before it even had a chance at life is sad and depressing. Give yourself time to heal or start again immediately with hope but enjoy and care for yourself, before you know it you are pregnant again.

No wait is easy ( even for a job, health report or for finances) but God makes everything beautiful in His time, let God take center stage and lose that desperation, anxiety, fear and depression in your life.

So I understand what it is to wait for a husband, or a child or another positive pregnancy result and it is hard I tell you; you are not alone and my thoughts and prayers are with you always.